There is a serious problem going on in most families - Mommy anger, rage, irritation, resentment and annoyance.The way in which today's average family breaks down the roles held by women and men is seriously broken in many families. I believe the inability to fairly and equitably break down responsibilities is one of the reasons divorce rates are so high
Ever since giving birth and choosing to stay home with Lucas and Mya, I have been monitoring, building and assessing my role as the Mom in this family. I have been watching other families navigate this division of labor and I have seen some serious flaws. This is not a minor issue in most Mom's lives.
Basically, it boils down to this .... many, many women are doing it all in their families and the anger and resentment that builds as a result is dangerous. Many Mom's feel as though they are singlehandedly holding their families on course and that lonely place is not something to be cherished.
I could write on this topic forever (and I may just have a seminar or book evolving here) because it encompasses so many dynamics.
Even Dr. Phil is weighing in on this issue and I appreciate much of what he said about it the other day - he seemed to sum it up by saying it is necessary for many women to lighten up and it is equally necessary for many men to step up.
Like most things in a marriage the solution likely lies in the husband making an effort to move closer to the woman's position and the wife moving to meet her husband in a place closer to his stance. Compromise, negotiation, acceptance, communication .... sounds so simple, yet it is not happening in many families.
Stay tuned as I explore this topic and possible solutions - there is much work to be done here.Please comment if you have some experience with this issue or suggestions for making it right.If I could identify and communicate a clear path of ease I would be so thrilled.It needs to be different.